In relationships it is normal to have ups and downs; moments when you feel close and times when you feel more distant. You may have heard the saying that couples fall in and out of love, I believe this to be true. However, there comes a time when a relationship may be facing more serious issues that if not dealt with will lead to the detriment of your union.
Below are five indicators that you may need relationship counseling.
#1 – You are wondering if the grass is greener on the other side.
By this I mean you are entering into a dangerous zone that could lead to an affair. It is not uncommon for individuals to fall into temptation when they are not happy at home. Emotional distance can leave us feeling unwanted so when someone comes along showing interest and easily gives you attention it is easy to wonder if you could be happier with someone new. Before you make a decision that will have lasting effects on you and your partner it would be wise to resolve the issues within your current relationship and figure out if it’s really over before you start something new.
#2 – You think your mate may be having an affair.
It is easy to become suspicious or even paranoid about what your partner is doing when things are not good between you. However there is a point where things start to add up and you may begin to feel that your relationship is in real danger. Trust your intuition and don’t ignore the signs. It is time to do something before things get out of control.
#3 – He or she is on your nerves.
If you are finding yourself easily annoyed by your partner and for some reason they can’t seem to do anything right you may be dealing with a deeper issue that needs to be resolved. Resentment, unforgiveness, depression, and anger are just a few emotions that could be contributing to your irritability. These undealt with emotions can lead to greater issues if you do not address them.
#4 – You are comparing your relationship to others.
It is easy to perceive that other relationships are better than yours. The truth is you don’t know what is going on in someone else’s private life and you don’t know what they have been through to get to this point if they are truly happy. Playing the comparison game is dangerous, especially within relationships. Figure out what is making you unhappy about your relationship and do the work to fix it.
#5 – You have lost sexual interest in your partner or vice-versa.
This is a common issue that many couples face. Often individuals think that if they’ve lost that loving feeling it may be a sign that it is time to move on. Not necessarily true. Unresolved issues, busyness, stress and lack of excitement can cause couples to put intimacy on the back burner. Recognizing there is a need for change is the first step – doing what is necessary to reconnect is the second step in bringing sexual intimacy back.
If you feel your relationship is in trouble don’t wait until it’s too late to take necessary action. With the right tools you can nurture your relationship out of troubled waters. Call Life Counseling Solutions at 407-622-1770 to schedule a consultation. We are here to help you do the work and restore your relationship. Or, schedule your first appointment here.