There are specific qualities in the male character that appeal to women. Confidence. The man that has absolutely no insecurities….that you notice. Intelligence. The man who can hold an intellectual and lengthy conversation. Leadership. The man who can lead a group or corporation in the right direction financially.
All of the qualities mentioned above are great to desire in a mate, however those qualities are not the only things needed for a healthy relationship. More often than not women have a checklist including things like: he must have a good job; he must be intelligent; and he must be on my level…meaning boss level!
Women rarely require a man to be a great communicator, meaning he can articulate his emotional needs. Or rarely do they desire a man to be compassionate, meaning he is able to allow you to be you without insult. Lastly, women do not usually require a man to be someone who does not avoid conflict, meaning the two of you will commit to discuss a win-win ending in times of disagreements.
Why do women overlook these qualities? Could it be because of great SEX!? Emotionally unavailable men may be some of the best partners you will ever encounter in bed, but their selflessness in bed is not transferred to their emotional openness in a relationship.
Here are 3 reasons women fall for emotionally unavailable men:
- After seeing red flags, you stay in the relationship believing you can change him.
- You struggle with low self-worth. Poor self-worth leads to poor thinking. Poor thinking leads to a false sense of reality.
- Feelings of rejection in a relationship feels normal due to your experiences of rejection in your childhood. Rejection can be so dangerous because it can lead to unhelpful coping skills.
Seeking validation from a romantic relationship at all costs is toxic! You deserve to be in a healthy relationship. After all, you may not know what a healthy relationship looks like or feels like. If this is the case for you, it’s time to seek some unbiased, professional help.
Allow yourself to go on a healing journey and gain the right perspective to keep you from accepting anybody just to have somebody. You can have a new perspective, a cleansed heart, and a new plan to truly be happy! Call Life Counseling Solutions today at 407-622-1770 to start this journey. Or book your first appointment with our expert therapists here.
Author: Cherlette Mccullough