In blended families there are numerous challenges in becoming a family in harmony. The first relationship that must have a firm foundation is between the biological and step parents. In blended families there tends to be issues of anger, resentment and bitterness in the beginning. As step parents face these challenges strife can come in the marriage which in turn causes emotional separation.
Here are a 5 tips to help you overcome challenges in blended families
1. Be Intentional.
Make the decision that the two of you will support each other. In order to do this the two of you must have ongoing consistent communication.
2. No Visible Arguing.
Disagreements may occur, but do not allow the children to see or hear the two of you arguing with each other.
Commit to having family meetings to resolve conflict by having a mutual understanding within the family unit. This can sometimes best happen with a counselor or mediator present, to allow everyone the opportunity to speak and feel heard.
Be mindful of your communication with your step children and spouse. ie: words and body language.
5. Understand that you are the step parent and do not need to validate your position.
In place of trying to validate who you are in your step children’s lives, simply show them love and acceptance through action.
Remember, you and your spouse are on the same team. You both want to see the family grow and have safe and healthy relationships.
If you find that you are having a difficult time keeping the peace in your home due to the issues that arise in blended families, call Life Counseling Solutions at 407-622-1770 to schedule a complimentary phone consult, or to schedule your first appointment.
Author: Cherlette Mccullough