Kim K. and Positive Body Image | Self-Esteem Coaching in Orlando

Recently, reality star Kim Kardashian posted a picture on Instagram that shouldn’t have surprised any of us, but seemed to cause quite the stir in the social media world. There were basically two reactions: disappointment or applause.

Many women, and celebrities alike, spoke out saying that Kim K. is sending a message to women everywhere that encourages our bodies to be used and portrayed in a degrading fashion.


While others made comments like, “Yes! You’ve inspired me! Do what you want with your body.”

But when does the line of confidence get crossed and enter back into a place of insecurity? In my opinion, a woman who is totally confident in her self is confident in just that, ALL aspects that make her who she is: her mind, her humor, her strength, her weaknesses, her wit, and her body. Confidence does not just pertain to how we look.

So, when a person goes and posts a nude selfie, my first thought is why? Is it because she’s confident in who she is? I don’t seem to think so. In fact, I think the opposite. It looks like a cry for attention. “Any press is good press,” right?! There have been HUNDREDS of thousands of tweets and comments about her (both good and bad), so ultimately she got the attention she was looking for.

But how do we empower our girls and young women to be confident without feeling the need to be a piece of sexually explicit material?

1. Empower WHO they are. Remember to celebrate all of the facets that make a woman incredible, not just her body and image.

2. Set good standards. As a mom, be a role model to your daughter. Show her how to exude beautiful confidence and find security in herself.

3. Encourage positive surroundings. As girls turn in to women, it’s crucial for them to surround themselves with other strong, confident women. That includes looking to females in the media that send positive messages consistently (think Taylor Swift, Reese Witherspoon, Kerry Washington, Sophia Bush, etc.)

4. Help them understand the difference between security and insecurity and guide them towards setting healthy, personal boundaries.

When making a decision, whether big or small, it’s important for women to ask themselves: why am I doing this? What’s the purpose/what am I hoping to achieve? Is this coming from a place of insecurity? And then do what is best for you.

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