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    5 Ways To Deal With Betrayal | Affair Recovery | Orlando Therapy

5 Ways To Deal With Betrayal | Affair Recovery | Orlando Therapy

One thing most people never dream of is their partner betraying them!  Yet, unfortunately, it seems to be the popular topic of conversations these days because of celebrities and their relationships. How do you handle unfaithfulness in your relationship?

  Let’s take a look at some tips that might be helpful to you.

1)  Allow Yourself To Grieve

There is absolutely nothing wrong with being upset about what happened.  It would be worse if you were to suppress your feelings and act like it didn’t bother you at all.  Take the time that you need to grieve.  It is ok to cry and let your feelings out.

2)  Seek Support

Talk to a close friend of yours, a close family member, or even seek out a counselor.  This gives you an opportunity to share your experience while being in a safe environment.  Talking to someone else will also enable you to look at the situation from a different perspective, hearing what your friend, family member or counselor has to say about your situation.

3)  Forgive

Forgiving your partner does not mean you have to get back together with him/her. Forgiving simply means that you acknowledge that we all make poor choices, that have consequences. Forgiving is an integral part of being able to eventually move on from what has happened in […]

Five Ways To Make The Most of Internet Dating

Do you find it hard to believe that numerous studies are claiming that over 30% of couples say that they met online?  Have you ever considered dating online?  Where the norm once was to meet at church, matched up by friends, or in a social setting like a club or bar, it is becoming more and more popular, acceptable and economical to meet online.  However, there are some basics to keep in mind so that you represent yourself well while also being cautious.

Here are 5 important guidelines that will help you do just that:

1)  Be Honest – Be honest about who you are and show yourself in the best light.  That is, besides using honesty in speech, also make sure you use a fairly recent picture of yourself and not one that shows you twenty or even ten years younger if you try finding a date online.  Even if it’s not intentional, you will be viewed as dishonest.

2)  Update Your Appearance – Before you start dating, make yourself look appealing.  Looks aren’t everything, but we all know that they do matter and that first impressions have the highest impact.

  • Eat right and exercise–you’ll look and feel better, and therefore, be more appealing.
  • Update your wardrobe–stylish, not fancy.  It doesn’t cost much to look like you’re living in this decade.

3 Ways FaceCrack (Facebook) Ruins Relationships

 


Are you a part of this social-networking phenomenon? It has been described as addictive and “like crack.” I, myself, have joined Facebook in the last year. I got tired of “why aren’t you on Facebook?” Please don’t get me wrong, I love staying connected with family and friends through the network, however, I have several clients that have ruined the intimacy in their relationship by allowing Facebook to consume their time and energy more than their spouse. According to a recent University of California, Los Angeles, report “the cost of Facebook could be the devaluing of real friendships and the reduction of face to face interactions.”

Let’s define Addiction in its simplest term: Anything that we use or turn to over and over to meet a legitimate need in an unhealthy way.

If you relate with the below, you could be a Facebook Addict!

1.You use Facebook as a distraction and it takes you into a fantasy world on some level. Facebook can give you the illusion that you have many friends and yet does not require […]

Facebook: Three Ways To Prevent Divorce


Did you read the recent headlines that Facebook is to blame for 1 in 5 divorces in the United States?  According to the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers (AAML) 81 percent of the country’s top divorce lawyers all agree that there has been a significant increase in the number of cases using social networking evidence during the past five years!  They have also stated that Facebook is the unrivaled leader for online divorce evidence with 66 percent stating it is the primary source!

What can you do to prevent Facebook from being a reason for your relationship difficulties?  Below are three ways that you can prevent Facebook from being the center of a relationship breakup!

1) Avoid the Danger Zone! You want to decide who can potentially be a danger to your current relationship. Most people do not plan to have an affair unless they intentionally are on the hunt to do so, otherwise, it is important to realize that most inappropriate relationships start with innocent conversations or getting updated on what each other has been doing over the years! If your partner has an issue with a certain friend, be proactive and just delete them from your friend list! Is it really worth the fight and distance in your real life relationship?

2) Don’t air your relationship dirty laundry! […]

Battling Sex Addiction

In a culture obsessed with sex, it might seem surprising that we don’t hear more about sex addiction. However, there is plenty of information for people addicted to alcohol, drugs and gambling. In a culture where sex, like alcohol, is socially acceptable and encouraged, and sexual images and provocation abound, it becomes more challenging to distinguish between normal sexuality and excessive, or abnormal, sexual behavior. However we are becoming better able to understand and treat this sexual disorder.

Sexual Addiction: What is it?

The National Council on Sexual Addiction and Compulsivity has defined sexual addiction as “engaging in persistent and escalating patterns of sexual behavior acted out despite increasing negative consequences to self and others.” In other words, a sex addict will continue to engage in certain sexual behaviors despite facing potential health risks, financial problems, shattered relationships or even arrest.


Behaviors associated with sexual addiction include:

Compulsive masturbation (self-stimulation)
Multiple affairs (extra-marital affairs)
Multiple or anonymous sexual partners and/or one-night stands

You Wanna Hook Up?

Why bother asking someone to dinner or to the movies when you can meet at a party, down a few drinks and go “hook up” for the night?

 

In my freshman year of college, I can remember going down the hall to the shared bathroom among the dorm rooms and seeing some of the girls hung-over around the sinks.  I caught my roommate’s eye and asked her what happened last night with that guy she had met at the party?  She said, “We had fun together with no strings attached if you know what I mean.  It was great!” Since those days, very little has changed in the female world of sexual freedom, it has only evolved into what we now call “hooking up”.

“Hooking up” can include all of the bases, and the ambiguity is intentional. Modest types can imply that less happened than did, and braggarts can hint at hitting a home run.  Hookups can be defined by alcohol, physical attraction and a lack of expectations in the morning.
“Hook-Up Mentality”
One of the legacies from the sexual revolution is the “hook-up mentality”.  The assumption behind that mentality is that sex is just another recreational activity.

There are many reasons why hooking up has become the name of the game and old-fashioned dating virtually does not exist anymore.  A big reason involves the changing social roles of women and the evolution of female sexual freedom.

These concepts can be baffling to parents and members of older generations who are used to a courtship culture, not a hookup culture.  However, it can also be confusing for those active in hooking up.  Hooking up often leaves participants confused about […]