3 Ways Men Grieve Differently Than Women | Orlando Mens Counseling

It’s no surprise that men grieve differently than women. However, it’s important to note that not all men grieve in the same manner. This article, talks a little bit about the male and female models of grief. Here, I would like to quickly present to you some of the ways men may grieve differently than women. Please note that everyone is different and no one fits in a box. What is considered normal for one man may not be considered normal for the next.

Here are 3 ways men grieve differently than women:

Avoidance

Many men who are grieving will turn toward work and keeping busy. Men may do this for two main reasons: one reason is to simply avoid the pain they are in; the other reason is because the expression of such pain is rarely expressed by men due to their own upbringings  and expectations placed upon them by their families and society. This may come off as being insensitive but it’s just the person’s natural tendency.

Anger & Rage

Men may also be more likely than women to express anger and rage toward the situation. This again stems from society’s expectations that anger is more acceptable than grieving and mourning for a man. So if a man is expressing anger and rage following a traumatic event or loss, it could be that person’s own way of dealing with it.

Do Something

Many men are seen as strong “protectors” to their families. Being protectors, they may have the urge to do something about the situation. Doing something may include things such as starting an investigation about the event/loss. They also might try to organize the family in some way, this also helps them keep busy (see avoidance above) which makes them appear strong and that they have it together.

No matter what the reaction is, it’s important for everyone to take the time and mourn loss. True mourning eventually brings forth healing. It is essential for the individual to be able to process the loss and the emotions that come with it. For ways to help men with grieving please see this article by Dr. Alan Wolfelt which also discusses the tendencies a man may gravitate toward with grieving.

At the end of the day, loss opens wounds in all of us. It is important for us to bond in those moments without being too pushy. Be available for those suffering through loss even if they seem fine or seem to be “taking it well.” The truth is you’ll never know one’s experience unless you take the time to ask and listen or at least make yourself available.

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Mike has experience working with substance abuse issues, adolescents, Veterans, the elderly, and college students in individual and group settings. Michael’s goal is to assist clients in reaching their full potential by helping them explore within themselves to find their strengths. He pays special attention to building a therapeutic relationship in order to create a safe place for change and growth. Michael provides counseling services to people of many different backgrounds but specializes in helping first-time parents transition. Continue reading here.