Partners of Sex Addicts | Orlando Addictions Counseling

Has your most intimate relationship come crashing down? Does your marriage/relationship feel like a lie? Have you recently learned of your spouse’s chronic affairs, pornography use, and/or compulsive masturbation? Are you lost and confused, and fear that no one will understand what is happening in your marriage?

As the partner of a sex addict, the betrayal and heartache you are experiencing can have long lasting traumatic effects. It is important to recognize the signs of a sex addict and work through your own healing whether or not your spouse has begun their journey to healing.

What about the partners of sex addicts?

Partners of sexual addicts, like partners of alcoholics, can also benefit from counseling and support groups. There are inpatient and outpatient programs, counseling, and support groups available to help you regain control of your life and be well equipped to support the recovery of your partner.

The Basics

While a sex addict will encounter many significant challenges in their effort to attain sobriety, their partners and spouses probably have it even more difficult. Anytime infidelity happens, whether it is actually in person, through pornography, or an internet encounter, the deceived partner will find they have to emotionally review and call into question everything they thought they knew about their relationship, looking back to try to find out what they missed, what went wrong and even what they could have done differently.

Deceived spouses may begin to challenge their particular behavior as they look back over the relationship.  Most betrayed spouses go through an extensive selection of feelings in regards to the sex addict, about themselves, and about the relationship. While the sex addict has known all along about his or her sexual behaviors, and may actually be feeling relief, the sexual acting out has been exposed, and the betrayed partner is generally somewhat blindsided by the revelation. Normally, the cheating itself, or a specific sexual act, is not what causes the most pain, it is the loss of trust in the relationship caused by the constant lying of the addict.

Partner and Spouse Recovery

Partners who have experienced infidelity have good reason to feel distressed, mistrustful, angry, and lost. Partners of sex addicts who opt to stay in the relationship frequently find that it is some time before they’re in a position to reestablish real trust and relaxation. That said, when the sex addict in the relationship is committed to a recovery plan, then this sort of healing may be possible. If the betrayed partner wants to continue in the relationship, they will need to  join the addict in his or her attempts by also beginning a process of recovery.  Individual therapy, support groups, and intensives can help accelerate healing and also provide a safe environment to explore and learn about living in recovery with a sex addict.

Resources at Life Counseling Solutions: Life Counseling Solutions offers dynamic healing and equipping experiences for the partners of sex addicts. Each experience is uniquely designed to complement, enhance, and build upon the other. There is no perfect or guaranteed way to heal from the trauma that sex addiction brings into the lives that it touches.

Haven: a Safe Space for Women Facing Heartbreak (Group)

Partners Healing Weekend (Intensive)

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