Sexual Addictions

5 Reasons Adult Websites Can Ruin Your Relationship

There are many dangers to viewing adult websites; it can damage your most important relationship. In the highly publicized divorce case between Christy Brinkley and her now ex-husband Peter Cook, it was revealed that he spent thousands of dollars on adult websites among his extra-marital expenses. In the new movie, “Fire Proof”, the main actor struggles with adult websites. David Duchovny, X-Files TV show main actor, recently admitted to checking himself into an in-patient treatment facility for sexual addictions. The Internet has enabled more people to access pornography in the privacy of their home. Along with that fact, is the realization that it is destroying more committed relationships than ever.
1) IT WILL LOWER YOUR COMMITMENT TO YOUR RELATIONSHIP.
In the book, Back From Betrayal, author Jennifer P. Schneider, M.D., asserts that for some dissatisfied people, fantasizing about affairs is the first step to a real affair. She suggests that the fantasizing process occupies such a large part of a person’s inner world that little energy is left for the marital relationship.
2) IT WILL LOWER YOUR INTEREST IN YOUR SPOUSE.
Repeated exposure to adult websites results in a decreased satisfaction with one’s sexual partner, a decrease in the valuation of faithfulness and a major increase in the importance of sex without attachment.
3) IT PROVOKES POWERFUL EMOTIONS TO SOMEONE OTHER THAN YOUR SPOUSE.

5 Tips: Talking To Your Kids About Infidelity


Tiger Woods recent confession and discussion about his treatment has drawn attention to the effects of infidelity on the entire family.  Unfortunately, Tiger is not alone, couples every year are faced with how to talk to their kids about infidelity.  How much do you tell them?  How should the hurt parent express their feelings about the indiscretions?  Should the kids be told at all?

It is one of the most difficult things to endure when you find out that your spouse has been unfaithful.  If you’re the one that has cheated, you probably realize the amount of pain that has been inflicted on your spouse.  What you may not comprehend is the pain that your child can feel because of infidelity.  This is a crucial time for your children.  It will either be an opportunity to open the doors for healing or create an even more hurtful situation depending on how it is handled.

The following are five tips to keep in mind when having that family meeting to tell the kids what has happened:

1. You want to keep in mind that your kid’s belief of who their parent was can be shattered when they find out about the betrayal.  Therefore, keep away from emotional, hurtful conversations that paint the betrayer as a bad person in front of the kids.

2. It […]