Janie Lacy

Post-Vacation Hangover | Orlando Counseling & Coaching

Post-Vacation Hangover | Orlando Counseling & Coaching

Work is starting back up, kids are returning to school, and the bills are coming in. Post vacation hangover is real! Once the high from pine needles, Christmas cookies, and decorations are gone, reality hits like a ton of bricks. It is relatively easy to feel overwhelmed, anxious, and dread as January sets in.

Here are a few simple tips to remedy your post-vacation hangover.

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  1. Routine, routine, routine. Setting yourself back on a routine can be a tremendous help. Implement bedtime routines, meal planning, and even leisure activities for yourself and your family. Nightly and morning routines are especially important. Feeling more awake in the morning and not being rushed out the door can make the difference between having a great day or crappy day.
  2. Taking it one day at a time. It’s important to plan and look towards the future. However, when the idea of tomorrow’s workload or next week’s bills sets your anxieties at an all-time high, then it will be best to focus on the here and now. Focus on being able to make it through today, the workday, the next few hours, or maybe the next few minutes. You need to build up your stamina and sometimes future thinking can be anxiety provoking and discouraging.
  3. Gratitude. Post-vacation blues can be most difficult because you are stuck living in your mental vacation wishing you were still there. Counting down to the next vacation can add onto the day to day dread. Identify the things you appreciate about the holidays, accept that they are gone, and move forward. […]

3 Ways To Break Patterns of Toxic Love | Orlando Relationship Counseling

3 Ways To Break Patterns of Toxic Love | Orlando Relationship Counseling

 “I’m so sick of that same old love, feels like I’ve blown apart — I’m so sick of that same old love, the kind that breaks your heart,” are the words from the popular Selena Gomez song titled, “Same Old Love.”  Have you ever considered your pattern in love relationships?  Have your relationships left you feeling empty, angry and lonely over and over again? The painful reality is that many people find it difficult to stop to observe what they accept, tolerate and come into agreement with in their love relationships.

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This could not be a better time of the year to examine your love relationship patterns as we approach Valentine’s Day.  If you discovered that you are sick of that same old love and that you have had enough, then here are three ways to break your pattern of toxic love:

1)        Take A Relationship Inventory:  We cannot break toxic love relationship patterns until we first become an observer of them.  It is important to stop and assess what relational repetitions you have continuously recreated throughout your history. This can be a very difficult and painful step to take in looking at your own behaviors in your relationships, and to also recognize the emotional template that you may be unconsciously reinventing.  The help of a trusted friend or a professional therapist may be very helpful in working this step because they can look at your relational history with an objective view point.

2)        Create a supportive network: When you are trying to make life-changing decisions to break old […]

“Her Story” Orlando Infertility Counseling

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Orlando Infertility Counseling with Life Counseling Solutions highlights an Orlando woman who is stepping out as an advocate and writing about “Her Story”.  She is a voice for other women who are feeling alone and struggling with infertility.

“Her Story”

 When my husband and I started trying to get pregnant, we just assumed it would happen naturally and quickly…the way that 50% of women get pregnant within 3 months, 75% within 6 months, and 90% within a year.  After about 9 months of no success, I finally got a referral for a reproductive endocrinologist, and that is when our journey began.  We learned that we had some mild male factor infertility and a low ovarian reserve.  That was a blow to find out, because, at only 32, I still considered myself young and healthy.  Our doctor encouraged us to get started on fertility treatments soon since “time was not on our side.” We started our first round of IUI a few months later.  Despite everything seeming ideal that cycle, we did not have success.  I remember crying the morning I got my period and thinking that it might never happen for us.  It seemed that everyone I know was getting pregnant.  I dreaded going on Facebook because I just knew that someone else would be announcing her pregnancy, but yet I couldn’t resist checking anyway.

We did another round of IUI two months later and at the end of the month, we got the news we had been praying for…a positive pregnancy test!  My beta levels were rising just as they should and we quickly spread the word among our […]

Flight Of A Mom With a Special Needs Child, Orlando Women’s Counseling

 

When we are about to take off on a flight, the flight attendants instruct us about our seat belts, emergency exits and oxygen masks. Few of us pay attention.  We are busy settling a baby, telling our kids not to kick the seat in front of you and getting the DVD player rigged up. However, we are told if the oxygen mask drops from the compartment above to put your mask on first. Do you remember why? You can’t help your child/children if you don’t help yourself first and pass out from lack of oxygen. So why don’t we apply this in other areas of our lives that have taken flight in a direction we haven’t planned for? Especially if you have boarded the flight of a mom with a special needs child.

When we become mothers we often neglect ourselves as we care for our children. I am a mom of two little boys and ride the turbulent flight of health and learning problems for each one of my sons. It has taken time and effort to make sure both have proper care, Doctor’s, OT, PT, Speech, Learning Specialists, finding the right school, educating teachers about their needs, researching and being an advocate.

Maybe your experience began during pregnancy, when your child was born, in the NICU or during his/her first few years of life. You took on the role of being a mom and your child’s care needs are many: appointments, medication, daily functioning, nursing, emotional and social needs. You cope with crisis […]

The X Factor: 5 Signs You Are NOT Over Your Ex | Breakups

 

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“I’m so over him! I don’t care anymore!”

How many times have you said this but shortly thereafter you were wishing you were back together?  Have you ever felt so certain that this time you were going to move on, only to then have the “what if” thoughts flood your brain?  You are not alone!  Did you know that 9 out of 10 people reading this have been on this roller coaster ride?  The thing is …we don’t really like this ride; it’s very difficult to handle.  Some might find themselves daydreaming about their ex or reliving the good times even months or years after the relationship has ended.  They may really want to think that they’re over their ex but subconsciously might be harboring romantic feelings, which can keep them from finding healthy love in which both parties are mutually invested.

Here are some signs that you might still be holding on to the past:

Sign #1: You are still hoping to “bump” into him. 

If you are still going to the same hang out spots, hoping to run into him with your new sexy outfit on, you are not over your ex!  Sure you know his schedule, it involved you, but it doesn’t anymore. That can be a hard realization but until that sinks in, you may find yourself not taking the necessary steps to keep it moving.

Sign #2: You want him to see you happy

girls night out 8If you are posting a usual amount of “party girl” pictures on your social media sites, just so he can see you that you are perfectly fine without […]

Facebook: Three Ways To Prevent Divorce


Did you read the recent headlines that Facebook is to blame for 1 in 5 divorces in the United States?  According to the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers (AAML) 81 percent of the country’s top divorce lawyers all agree that there has been a significant increase in the number of cases using social networking evidence during the past five years!  They have also stated that Facebook is the unrivaled leader for online divorce evidence with 66 percent stating it is the primary source!

What can you do to prevent Facebook from being a reason for your relationship difficulties?  Below are three ways that you can prevent Facebook from being the center of a relationship breakup!

1) Avoid the Danger Zone! You want to decide who can potentially be a danger to your current relationship. Most people do not plan to have an affair unless they intentionally are on the hunt to do so, otherwise, it is important to realize that most inappropriate relationships start with innocent conversations or getting updated on what each other has been doing over the years! If your partner has an issue with a certain friend, be proactive and just delete them from your friend list! Is it really worth the fight and distance in your real life relationship?

2) Don’t air your relationship dirty laundry! […]

Three Reasons Women Marry Less Educated Men

Have you noticed this trend lately?  More women are marrying men who are less educated than they are!  But here is the real question…does it really matter if a woman has more education than her man?  Will the different levels of education impact how they get along in each other’s social circles? Of course, there can be questions of each being secure in whom they are rather than in who brings in the most income or concerns about compatibility. Sure, there is a lot to consider when she is carrying her doctorate into the corporate world and he is happy with his high school diploma and his blue-collar job.  Bottom line, education does not have to stand in the way of love conquering all of these differences. Since this is a growing trend, let’s take a look at the reasons that women are marrying less educated men.

Less College Educated Men to Choose From:
  • Sociologists are telling us that academic and workplace strides among women are outpacing those of men in the United States and the gains are affecting whom educated women marry.

More Women Hold Advanced Degrees:

  • There is also a gender shift in the realm of education.  The Pew Research Center recently reported that Women represent nearly 60 percent of students holding advanced […]

Battling Sex Addiction

What does Desperate Housewives, Sex and the City and the new ABC show Dirty Sexy Money all have in common? You guessed it – sex! We are inundated with so many explicit messages from Hollywood about sex.

In a culture obsessed with sex, it might seem surprising that we don’t hear more about sex addiction. However, there is plenty of information for people addicted to alcohol, drugs and gambling. In a culture where sex, like alcohol, is socially acceptable and encouraged, and sexual images and provocation abound, it becomes more challenging to distinguish between normal sexuality and excessive, or abnormal, sexual behavior. However we are becoming better able to understand and treat this sexual disorder.

Sexual Addiction – What is it?

The National Council on Sexual Addiction and Compulsivity has defined sexual addiction as “engaging in persistent and escalating patterns of sexual behavior acted out despite increasing negative consequences to self and others.” In other words, a sex addict will continue to engage in certain sexual behaviors despite facing potential health risks, financial problems, shattered relationships or even arrest.

Three Things You Need to Know If You Are Married Sleeping Apart



Did you know that more than 23 percent of married Americans sleep alone according to the National Sleep Foundation?  The reason that couples reported that they sleep separately was because of snoring, restless leg syndrome, pregnancy, and different work schedules, but is it a good idea?  According to the National Association of Home Builders, there’s been a steady increase in the number of requests for “two-master bedroom” homes since 1990, prompting the organization to predict that by 2015, 60 percent of all custom upscale homes will be built with two “owner suites.”

Below are three things you should consider if you and your spouse have separate rooms:

1. IS THIS BRINGING US CLOSER TOGETHER OR FARTHER APART?

Couples need to consider if medical conditions are keeping them from snuggling at night, many of the cited medical reasons can be successfully treated.  If couples continue to sleep apart and do not address the reasons behind it, it can spell […]

3 Ways For Singles To Enjoy Valentine’s Day

Do you watch all the sappy jewelry commercials and fantasize that it is you or do you curse all the marketing campaigns that remind you that you are still alone?  Where most people focus on their partners on February 14th, can a single person actually enjoy this day instead of taking a “sick day” from life?  If you are a single individual on Valentine’s Day, you can truly make it a great day rather than a dreaded one!

Let’s start with a positive outlook and consider these three simple ideas:

1.  Connect With Others:

Yes, the deep desire might be to spend Valentine’s Day with that special someone, but realize that this void can be filled by interacting with others who might be single too.  Of course, the idea is NOT to get together and be miserable and talk about how lonely you are, you will actually want to make sure you are making step 2 happen!

2.  Creative Activities:

Whether you connect with friends or you decide you are fine with being alone, be creative and find things you really like doing!  Make the day full of activities that are fun for you, that take care of you or are what you have wanted to do but have been putting off.  Go to your favorite restaurant, get a massage, get out and enjoy nature, do a sports or shopping day followed by a movie your really want to see.  The idea is that it gets to be about YOU and you can create the day however YOU want!

3.  Care For Others:

Just because there is not that special Valentine in your life right now does not mean you […]