The Problem With Rape | Orlando Sexual Abuse Counseling
Yesterday, a reporter asked President Obama to make a statement about the allegations that Bill Cosby drugged and raped women. The President declined to comment on Bill Cosby, but followed with a statement that is going to hit home with almost everyone, because it registers as obvious. He said, “No civilized country should tolerate rape.”
As a society, we agree that rape, and along a continuum, any form of sexual abuse is wrong. When we define the concept of rape on paper, it is clear that sex, or sexual acts, that happen through force, coercion, or without mutual consent are wrong. If we imagine a rape, or sexual abuse, we think scary, dark, criminal figure seeking out a victim, stalking them, and overpowering a weaker person in a dark alley. That scenario can and does happen, even though it never should. But statistics show that 4 out of 5 assaults occur by someone who knows the victim, and that 47% of rapists are a friend or acquaintance of the victim.
The problem with rape is that when it happens in reality, it is not as clearly defined as a crime in the victim’s mind. 4 out 5 times a victim is raped by someone that they know, not a scary stranger in a dark alley at night. It’s this personal experience with their perpetrator that leaves the victim feeling confused about what’s actually happened. It’s easy to put the label “rapist”, “sexual abuser” and “pedophile” on a scary stranger that you don’t know. Victims of rape, date rape, and sexual abuse are often reluctant to […]