Do you seem to be helping everyone else except yourself? Giving constantly but having nothing in return. Do you find yourself feeling exhausted, overwhelmed, and resentful? You ask yourself, “How did I end up here?”
Everyone else labels you as the nice guy. You are the one who is always available and willing to help. Yet you find yourself never having your own time or needs met. But, you feel too guilty to say no. You don’t want to hurt other people’s feelings.
This behavior on the outside seems so giving and beautiful, but it can easily be poisonous and deadly. Life is all about balance. If you continuously give with no return and no recharge, you eventually become drained and empty. You do not get the opportunity to value yourself. Here are a few negative drawbacks of being a constant giver:
- Taken advantage of by other people
- Growing stressed and feeling overwhelmed
- Bitterness and anger builds up
- Becoming more absent with your friends and family
- Life becomes dictated by other people’s needs
These consequences not only affect you personally but those closest to you. Your partner, children, friends are constantly being rescheduled or overlooked due to your duties or commitments. Loving others does not always mean giving everyone your complete time and energy. Loving yourself and valuing your needs will lead you feeling more refreshed, confident, and happier. In fact, loving yourself gives you the power to better help others.
Here are a few tips to help you set healthy boundaries so you can feel more refreshed
- Self-care: Give yourself time once a week to fully engage […]