5 Tips To Help You Deal with Holiday Depression

Holiday Depression 
Are the holidays a time of depression and passive suicidal thoughts for you? Do you feel an over emphasis of uncertainty or the fear of never having the life you have envisioned for yourself during the holidays? Life is bigger than supplements and enhancement. Life is about living and believing that what we have is enough as we are on the journey to living life of abundance. It is time for you to take inventory of where you are now. Are you in the same place as you were last year? Has your situation changed, in a positive or negative way? You have the power to change your current situation.

Holiday Depression

 5 tips To Help You Counteract Holiday Depression
1.  Make the decision to take the journey for change now.
2.  Pay attention to how you talk to yourself  and turn those negative thoughts to positive thoughts.
3.  Surround yourself with like minded positive people.
4.   Join a local support group, avoid isolation.
5. Forgive yourself for all mistakes and believe that it will get better.
If you are struggling in this area and want advice, guidance or support call me today at Life Counseling Solutions at 407.622.1770

Orlando blended family and weightloss CounselingCherlette combines person-centered, cognitive-behavioral, Solution-Focus, brief therapy along with other theoretical models as needed. Cherlette is a realistic and compassionate person who believes that
counseling should be tailored to the needs of the client. Her goal is […]

By |November 17th, 2017|Articles|0 Comments
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    Emotional Regulation | Orlando Therapy | Life Counseling Solutions

Emotional Regulation | Orlando Therapy | Life Counseling Solutions

Emotional Regulation

Five Things To Regulate Your Emotions 

Our emotions deeply affect our actions, even when we are not aware of them. When we feel jealous, angry or rejected we are likely dealing with whatever stressors we have by suppressing our emotions. On the other hand, when we constantly worry and pre-occupy ourselves to avoid our feelings, we are surviving in a dysfunctional manner leading to anxiety and depression.

With emotional regulation, we must know the difference between Avoiding and Admitting our true feelings. Avoiding leads to more unwanted actions. Admitting leads to more self-awareness and more fulfillment in life.

5 things to keep in mind when you take the brave steps to regulate your emotions:

1.  Be mindful of current emotions.

2.  Label your emotions.

3.  Accept when things can’t change.

4.  Recognize and Cope with stress in a positive way.

5.  Accept that its ok to take a time out.

Emotional Regulation is all apart of Self-Care. Self-Care includes looking inward for happiness, validation and self-acceptance. Remember thoughts are not facts.

Orlando blended family and weightloss Counseling

Cherlette is a realistic and compassionate person who believes that counseling should be tailored to the needs of the client. Her goal is to help you explore the negative beliefs that are keeping you stuck and are no longer beneficial.  Cherlette will help you replace them with positive beliefs that will help you move towards growth and your desired change. Read more about her here…

 

By |September 12th, 2017|Articles|0 Comments

Blended Families: Boundaries with the “Ex”

Blended Families: Boundaries with the “Ex”

The toxic/vindictive ex-wife or husband that doesn’t respect the boundaries of their relationship with their ex is because they have never really let go emotionally and will hang on for dear life all the while undermining the Ex’s capability to co-parent with them and move on to a new life. It would be nice if everyone involved could just get along, or at least be cordial but we all know that isn’t always the case. Setting firm boundaries helps everyone involved in a blended family situation. Boundaries allow everyone involved to have a clear path with realistic expectations with sharing information and face to face meet ups. The goal of setting boundaries is so that while you are co-parenting you will develop and maintain a healthy, mutually respectful relationship.

Let’s look at what weak boundaries look like:

  1. Fixing his/her leaky faucet, cooking him/her meals, etc.
  2. Having sex with your ex
  3. Loaning him/her money when you’re struggling to pay your own bills
  4. Looking at your ex’s social media posts and photos and becoming angry
  5. Allowing your ex to have/use keys to your home or car
  6. Using your Ex for emotional support in happy or sad times
  7. Sharing banking, email accounts with your Ex
  8. Allowing your mail to go to your Ex’s home/not changing your mailing address

How to set Healthy, realistic boundaries with your Ex:

  1. Make a list of the reasons why boundaries are needed.
  2. […]

By |September 6th, 2017|Articles|0 Comments

5 Tips to Help your Teen Sleep

5 Tips to Help your Teen Sleep| Orlando Teen Counseling

Coming out of vacation and starting school is tough. What is even tougher is regulating your teen back into a healthy sleeping schedule. No school and infinite play time mean staying up into the wee hours of the night. Teens typically sleep about 7 and 7 ¼ hours of sleep but most of them need 9 and 9 ½ hours. During vacation, teens have ample time to fill up their sleep need but once school starts it is the first to go. Therefore, as a parent, it is imperative to help your child start school on the right side of the bed. Here are 5 tips to help regulate your teen’s sleep.

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1. Start early and gradually:

Do not wait until the day before school to implement your teen’s sleep schedule. Your teen has been staying up for the past week or months until 1 am or later. Their bodies will not magically fall into timely tired and wake patterns. As a result, encourage or even enforce earlier and earlier bedtimes as school is approaching to help teen sleep. Do not budge even if it is the weekend!

2. Eliminate screen time

Remove all electronic devices from your teen an hour or two before bedtime. Lights emitted by devices can jolt the body into wake mode and delay natural hormonal releases to help sleep. Often times, teens will gravitate to their devices to pass time hoping to feel tired. What they do not realize is that the tool they […]

By |August 9th, 2017|Articles|0 Comments

“What Causes Addiction?” | Orlando Addiction Therapy

Orlando Addiction Therapy | “What Causes Addiction?”

I think we ask ourselves this question because we want answers.  We want to get to the root cause of someone’s drinking. Maybe we are hopeful that if we can figure out why they started in the first place and solve that problem then it won’t be an issue all together.  Or maybe if we figure out why all these people are ….what I hear people say “choosing” to use opioids… (which is a whole different educational piece we will discuss later on), but if we know why all these people are getting addicted to the heroin then we can eradicate the issue.  Right??

This thing is that… this illness.. is not that simple.  In fact, it is very complex as to why someone might use excessively resulting in destroying their lives and those around them.

Orlando Addiction TherapyWhile I can’t directly answer this question what causes it …. I am going to explain to you things that happen from a young age that are likely to increase someone’s chance of turning to substances. These are behaviors, environments, parenting styles, experiences that people live with from a young age that have been supported by research to increase someone’s chance of becoming addicted. This thing called addiction can happen to ANYONE.  No one is immune and there is so much we can do to prevent it.

Dr. Earley, the president elect of ASAM recently reported that our genes account for 50% of someone’s chance of becoming addicted.  If someone is addicted in the family that means that we need to monitor for this even more.  Now, […]

Warning, Warning!! Four Signs of a Potentially Toxic Relationship

Warning, Warning!! Four Signs of a Potentially Toxic Relationship

You feel devastated, empty, and ashamed. You are yet again alone and obliterated by another relationship. It is already difficult to rebuild after a relationship but what makes it worse is rebuilding from a destructive and unhealthy relationship. But, it is possible to protect yourself from unsafe partners. Here are four warning signs of a potentially toxic relationship.

anxiety, stress, depression, affairs, betrayal, cutting, abuse, toxic, self-esteem, blended family, divorce, angerToo much checking in:

 If you are receiving multiple or successive text messages/phone calls then sound the alarm! The messages could end with emojis or caring remarks but the content is focused on where you are, who you are with, and what you are doing. You want to ask yourself “why are they checking in so much?” If there is not a primary concern, such as a sickness or being emotionally upset, there is cause for suspension. The partner could be insecure and it may show signs of controlling or stalking behaviors.

Losing friends:

“What type of friends am I losing?” and “Why am I losing friends?” You should feel concerned if you are losing friends too quickly or losing close/long-term relationships. Often times, abusive or unhealthy partners want to isolate their victims. When family or friends are out of reach then who is available for comfort? You are trapped with only your partner for emotional support.

Pressure to share things you are not ready for:

Deep and personal questions sought out in early stages of a relationship is cause for suspicion, especially if there is pressure. Pressure to share things can turn into pressure to do things you […]

When to Clean and Sober | Orlando Substance Abuse Therapy

When is the right time to get clean and sober??

by Jessica Candelaria Lipsey

When is the right time to get clean and sober? Now!  Often times when someone starts contemplating stopping or going into treatment they will come up with a list of various reasons why they can’t.  We frequently hear things like, “I don’t have time;” “I could loose my job;” “I won’t spend as much time with my children;”etc… The list of reasons go on and on.   These are things we hear all too often as loved ones when we are watching someone die right in front of us.  It may be frustrating from an outsider’s perspective but what we must recognize is that this individual truly does not know any other way to live.  One way to have compassion for someone struggling making that step into recovery is to understand that this life is the ONLY normal one to them.

When someone is in active addiction almost everything they do is managed around the drinking lifestyle.  They go to places where they can drink, they hang out with people who drink, or they come home to drink – the drinking/using routine becomes very ritualistic.  Eventually it gets to the point where if one tries to stop they begin obsessing about getting the next drink and then the compulsion takes over where it’s unbearable so they must drink again. Not until intervention is implemented can this cycle be stopped.

Progression of Addiction

The real problem of waiting to stop is the fact that addiction is a progressive disease.  […]

  • How to Stop Over Extending Yourself, and Start Saying No!  | Orlando Anxiety Counseling How to Stop Over Extending Yourself, and Start Saying No!  | Orlando Anxiety Counseling

    How to Stop Over Extending Yourself, and Start Saying No! | Orlando Anxiety Counseling

How to Stop Over Extending Yourself, and Start Saying No! | Orlando Anxiety Counseling

How to Stop Over Extending Yourself, and Start Saying No!

Do you seem to be helping everyone else except yourself? Giving constantly but having nothing in return. Do you find yourself feeling exhausted, overwhelmed, and resentful? You ask yourself, “How did I end up here?” Everyone else labels you as the nice guy. You are the one who is always available and willing to help. Yet you find yourself never having your own time or needs met. But, you feel too guilty to say no.

This behavior on the outside seems so giving and beautiful, but it can easily be poisonous and deadly. Life is all about balance. If you continuously give with no return and no recharge, you eventually become drained and empty. You do not get the opportunity to value yourself. Here are 5 negative drawbacks of being a constant giver:

  • Taken advantage of by other people

  • Growing stressed and feeling overwhelmed

  • Bitterness and anger builds up

  • Becoming more absent with your friends and family

  • Life becomes dictated by other people’s needs

These consequences not only affect you personally but those closest to you. Your partner, children, friends are constantly being rescheduled or overlooked due to your duties or commitments. Loving others does not always mean giving everyone your complete time and energy. Loving yourself and valuing your needs will lead you feeling more refreshed, confident, and happier. In fact, loving yourself gives you the power to better help others. Here are a few tips to help you set healthy boundaries so you can feel more refreshed

  1. Self-care:

    Give yourself time once a week to fully engage in what you like, not what […]

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Developing Compassion after Trauma, & Heartbreak | Orlando Substance Abuse Counseling

Developing Compassion after Trauma & Heartbreak

by Jessica Candelaria Lipsey

Individuals who have experienced tragic or traumatic events in their life often struggle with self-hatred or intense shame.  These core feelings prevent self-love and compassion, ultimately postponing healthy, desirable relationships.  Furthermore, if someone has experienced trauma and lacks healthy coping skills, they are more likely to use alcohol or other substances to self-medicate.

Over 80% of individuals with alcohol or other drug problems have experienced trauma or abuse in their past. Part of gaining long term recovery often means working through the effects of trauma or abuse.  This is a process effectively mastered in the counseling setting.  Bringing up any trauma or abuse can be re-traumatizing (if not done correctly); therefore, it is vital to do this with a professional. This is especially true for individuals trying to stay clean and sober, as it can be a major trigger for relapse.

One major component in healing from past trauma is learning how to develop compassion.  Most importantly compassion and love for yourself.  Once we learn how to love ourselves, and accept ourselves entirely, then we are capable of truly caring for others. We can’t fill anyone else’s cup if ours is empty.

Compassion is absolutely necessary in successful relationships.  Let’s say our partner has said something hurtful but genuinely apologized, and we just cannot find it in ourselves to forgive this behavior.  The hardest time to have compassion for another is usually when they have done something unkind.  Hurt people, hurt people; but when someone has hurt us it is helpful to remember they are not […]

3 Tips to Accept your New Body after Bariatric Surgery | Orlando Bariatric Weightloss Therapy

by Cherlette McCullough

After under-going weight-loss surgery a lot of men and women and men struggle with accepting their new body.  After surgical weightloss Most patients struggle with the extra skin, baggy clothes, compliments their not use to hearing, insults from the naysayers etc.  All of which can cause added stress to the already difficult lift style changes. The stress can then cause sadness which can turn to into depression or addiction.  Bariatric patients often times end up back in the situation they were in prior to weight-loss surgery, because they didn’t make the efforts to heal emotionally to what may have been the cause of the weight gain.  Losing the weight is great however; holding the emotional grudges against yourself make it  hard to accept your new body.

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Here are 3 Tips to Start Accepting Your New Body:

  1. Remember Your Why. Keep in mind why you decided to have weight loss surgery. Write yourself reminders to see throughout the day.
  2. Think of yourself in a positive way. When you start having the negative thoughts; challenge yourself to recognize the pattern, stop it and replace the negative thoughts with positive thoughts/affirmations. For example, I am beautiful; I love myself and my new body. I accept the new me.
  3. Do not avoid mirrors or clothes shopping for clothing that fit. Don’t hide in the oversized clothes. Go shopping with a trusted friend or family member. Often times we aren’t able to truly see the weight loss and still try to buy the pre-surgery sizes.  Bring someone with you to help shop and make it fun again!

Overall, remind yourself daily the reasons […]