Valentine’s Day is almost here- the day that some people who are not in an intimate relationship dread. Most people do not know the history of the famous Saint Valentine. Contemplating the history and origins that influenced this holiday can give us inspiration during this potentially self-pity inducing, red and pink heart-filled week of chocolate and flowers.

Saint Valentine was actually a Christian martyr of ancient Rome whose life was filled with deeper purpose and meaning than the momentary thrills of limerence or the temporary good gift of romance. In fact, Valentine’s Day did not become associated with romantic love until the 14th century in the circle of Geoffrey Chaucer when courtly love began to flourish.

It is a wonderful thing to cherish the ones we love but that does not have to exclusively be an intimate partner. We can cherish our family and friends as well.

With February 14th right around the corner, let’s take a look at some intentionally meaningful things you could do to celebrate whether you are single or married.

1.  Enjoy Your Family and Friends

Take this day to spend some time with your friends and family. Have your friends over for dinner. You could all bring a dish or cook something collectively. Just enjoy the time together! Be thankful for one another.

2.  Enjoy Nature

Go take a long walk on the beach, in the woods, or in the mountains. Take some time to get away from the hassles of every day life and enjoy the beauty of nature that you are surrounded by where you live.

You don’t have to do this by yourself. If you want, grab a friend or one of your family members to tag along. Take this time to catch up on each other’s lives.

3.  Give Your Time To Someone Else

Valentine’s Day is the day we do nice things for our loved ones, right? Instead of buying candy for your loved one you could offer to do a favor for your friend. Ask them if they need a ride to work, or if there is something that you can do to make their day easier.

This is something you can make a habit of throughout the year as well. It’s a great way to show your appreciation for your loved ones.

4.  Do Something For Yourself

This is also a good time to treat yourself for once! A lot of times we forget about ourselves.  We get caught up with all the things that we have to do- whether it is work, school, our job, children, spouses, or our families.

Make some time for yourself and do something you enjoy. Read a book. Finish that painting you have been working on, or whatever it is that you do in your spare time. Go ahead and enjoy it!

5.  Reflect

The holidays are always a great time to reflect. I know this is something we tend to push to the side, but reflection is important. It is very healthy to take the time to look at your life, to look at yourself, to ponder your life’s direction. You might be surprised about what you’ll find out!

If you are intentional, Valentine’s Day can be fun and special whether in a committed relationship or single!   There are plenty of alternatives to spending the day with your honey. Be thankful for this beautiful day and enjoy it whichever way you choose to spend it!

Author:  Isabell Ohlinger